The Ex Your Ex Blog with Errol Greene

Why is being rejected a good thing? What can you learn about it?

Because sometimes things just aren’t right and need to end. In most cases, you should thank the person for recognizing it and freeing you to find a better fitting partner. Notice I say “better fitting,” and not “a better partner.”

Remember, relationships are about fit, not about being good, bad, unworthy, unlovable, etc.,

Moving on can save both parties a lot of heartache and wasted time trying to force a challenged relationship to work. And because we are all mortal, time is the one thing that we don’t have to waste, especially when it comes to relationships.

Imagine you go buy some shoes you really like, but they don’t fit. They look nice on you and you want them to fit, so you continue trying to wear them anyway. Soon, your feet are killing you, wearing blisters and causing all kinds of bad things to happen to your feet.

Eventually, if you wear them long enough, they will negatively impact the quality of your life.

But if we simply recognize they don’t fit and are wrong for us, we get another pair that does fit, life is good, problem solved.

We don’t cry and wonder what’s wrong with our feet, we simply recognize they aren’t a good fit and search for another pair that is.

It’s the same thing with relationships—as much as we may want them to work out, sometimes they are just wrong, and we need to recognize that trying to force a square peg into a round hole is only going to lead to bad things.

So be grateful for your breakup’s and realize they happened for a reason and can save you from far greater issues (think divorce, child support, losing half of your assets, etc.,

) down the road.